When you are talking to girls there is nothing scarier than nervous anxiety. It happens when you run out of things to say.
Your hands start to sweat, and it is impossible to form one coherent thought. Typically this is where you put your foot in your mouth and end up humiliating yourself.
However just by taking a few easy steps you can eliminate most of these feelings.
Step 1 - Prepare your conversation topics
This means think about what you are going to talk about before you approach. For example ask her where she is from?
Did she grow up there? Does her family live there? Does she come from a big family? Brothers and sisters?
Or talk about politics. Did she vote for Obama? What does she think of the stimulus package? Auto bailout?
These are just a few examples. The point is take a few moments and prepare a couple conversation topics. It will help tremendously.
I suggest three topics. As you get more comfortable you will not need to prepare as much. However this really helps to eliminate that nervous anxiety when you fun out of things to say.
Also it will make you appear less nervous. If you appear less nervous you are seen as self assured or confident. This will help her feel more comfortable and attracted to you.
Step 2 - Mantras
Create a couple mental mantras. You should use these before, during, and after your approaches.
For example, I always tell myself "she is just as nervous as you." This is true!
The next time you are fighting with yourself about approaching or not tell yourself she is just as nervous as you. It will help to make you feel more comfortable. Just like men women get nervous too.
Another good one is "Act As if." This means act as if you are the man. Act like she should be lucky you are talking to her.
Specifically use this to help give off that elusive confidence, that women are so attracted to. The truth is she is lucky because you are a good quality guy.
It's not like you want to take her home and beat her up! Instead you just want to get to know her and see how things go. Of course, be careful you don't go to far and been seen as arrogant.
Last one is "Don't chase her just replace her." Thankfully there are a lot of women in the world.
If things don't work out with one, who cares? There are plenty more, don't let yourself get down about one woman.